Laugh in The Time of Corona
The thing about hard times is that they all eventually pass. The other thing about hard times is that they aren't a competition either. The loneliness and isolation I felt as a first time stay-at-home mother in a new country, is different to what I am feeling now. What I feel "sheltering-in-place" will be very different to what key workers are going through. What we do have in common is strength reserves. We have mechanisms for getting through this. And we will. This blog post is a bunch of reminders for things to try when your reserves are feeling a little low.
1. This is Really Important: Reframe the Situation
Words matter and the two most prominent words for what we’re going through are poorly thought out. The word "lockdown" makes us feel locked in prison but what we are actually doing is experiencing a raahui - a temporary restriction for our protection and the protection of others. The term "social isolation" is wrong, we are physically distant from people but we are still connecting with friends and family. We are actually in" aahuru mowai" -safe haven. When we use words that make us feel safe instead of threatened our nervous system relaxes and our subtle alarm system lowers its guard.

2. Look for the Silver Linings in this Whole Experience
Can you think of three positive things that have come out of being at home for such a long time? I'm not going to list all of mine here but one good thing for our family is the amount of time we now spend together. I am playing more with my children on our daily exercise outing than I ever have before.

3. Hack your mood
A good mood creates a positive bias to overcome the flow of negative information we are getting at the moment. To help to get yourself into a good mood you can remember a moment that made you very happy. Draw in the colours, the smells and the temperature of this moment to recreate this emotion vividly in your mind. You can also think of your favourite food and the emotions eating this delicious meal creates. You can repeat words that make you feel happy such as ‘joyful’, ‘laughter’, ‘giggle’, ‘sparkle’ and ‘smile’ to yourself. Or, you can look at comic books, tell jokes or share memes with friends and family.

3. Keep it Simple.
Our brains are really busy right now readjusting to a new normal. Sustained attention and big projects are pretty ambitious. It may feel easier to do small scale things throughout the day. Include something creative; something that connects you to someone else; something productive, and some self care. As Matt Haig writes "the tea seemed to be making things better. It was a hot drink made of leaves, used in times of crisis as a means of restoring normality." What restores normality for you? Do that thing. Daily. To help the kids I created this BINGO sheet for when they have a moment of "what now?" in their structure-less day.